“Just because no one else can heal or do the inner work for you, doesn’t mean you can, should, or need to do it alone” Lisa Olivera

How to reach for your mental cloud 9, when the other 8 clouds stand in the way.


Realizing that it really is all about you

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For years, we’ve walked around everyday living life dealing with what traumas and troubles this world hands us, not realizing the huge impact it has on us not just physically but more important mentally. We are forced to deal with different traumas and we each find different coping mechanisms to deal with them. Not knowing the long term affect it leaves not only for us to deal with but for those around us as well.

I was one of those women who grew up in a life filled with all types of traumas, ones that I thought that I had discreetly tucked away, never to be drudged up again. Little did I know, what I was hiding on the inside was beginning to seep through on the outside. With each trauma, with each disappointment, I slowly became someone that even I did not recognize. With each relationship in my life, it became more and more apparent that I was doing everything I could to keep pushing those near me away and slowly isolating myself from those who loved me most.

Then when my life was at a point where it seemed like the seams holding my mind together were quickly unraveling, I met an interesting man who changed my life and my thinking completely. He had traveled from New York to California on a journey to rediscover himself and to truly get to know who he is and how to live successfully with Borderline personality disorder (BPD). As someone who battled with Borderline personality disorder (and didn’t even know it) and the full blown rage that comes with it, he began to show me how he was able to conquer his demons and live a truly happy, freeing life. I was desperate to also experience this in my own life.

One year later, we are still learning together. We are now in a happy blossoming relationship that came with its shares of trial and error. I am hoping that by sharing some basic truths and foundations that I applied to my life personally and in my relationship. I can also help you find your true freedom. It all starts with you and taking care of and placing your mental health first. As we continue to take this journey together in my life and in my relationship, I would like to share it with you to give you hope and know that if you are willing to put in the work, it pays off. And also, to give you tips on how to make your relationship successful when both of you are dealing with mental health issues.

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