We have all felt this way at one point or another. You set specific goals that you know will enhance your life and mental health. You make a clear plan. You get pumped and feel ready to take on the world. Then a situation will come along and pull you ten steps backward. You feel like such a failure. You’re disappointed because you fell back.
I would be so hard on myself that, at times, it would just pull me back into a deep depression. When I managed to get myself out of the hole I was in, I realized where I went wrong and found ways to not make that mistake again. The more I went through it, the more I realized something…..my fall made me better.
There’s a saying that goes, “When your all the way down, there is no other way to go but up.” Never has that been more true than when you are working on yourself and your mental health. Instead of being hard on myself, I realized that I had to take my failure as a win. How can you fix something without knowing it’s broken? You must find the break first to be put back together.
It’s all in the fall
The most significant part is that, as humans, we can be very resilient. Not only can we be broken, but we can be put together even better the second time around. I have learned to take my failures as learning experiences. To get to know me better. To fully understand where I am broken, I need to be patched up or completely pieced together again.
Failure is hard for everyone to accept. It was for me and still is to this day at times. But as I make mistakes or fall back ten steps, I find the holes that need patching, and it gives me the ability to stand up and continue walking. Knowing your failures and making an effort to change them gives you an advantage.
I have come to realize…it’s all in the fall. Without the fall, there is no victory. Without the fall, you would not be you. Everyone falls differently and at different times, but you can not be perfect without the fall. Not perfection as it is defined in the dictionary, but the type of perfection that genuinely makes you, you. When you are content with who you are, knowing that you will make mistakes along the way, but through those mistakes, you will become a stronger you. Then you have reached your mental cloud 9.
Getting back up (conclusion)
This is the ultimate goal for everyone, especially those who suffer from mental disorders. Whether it be depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorder, or any other disorder. Having a balanced mind, body, and soul is attainable for everyone. Although we have to take different roads to get there, we all have the same destination,
You are the author of your book. You can write and rewrite chapters of your life. The great thing about your life being a story is that you can make alternate endings. Just because people thought you would end up one way does not mean it has to end that way; this allows you to rewrite your story and captivate others by surprising them with a different ending.
Never be afraid to fall. Your better tomorrow is in the fall of today. Learn from your mistakes, learn to love your failures, and see them as a chance to build a better version of yourself every day. Love yourself, make yourself a priority. You will be much more proud when you stand back up.